As humans we have an inbuilt inquisitive nature which means we seek closure for all the things we don't understand. Now i have done this this myself countless times over the years which always makes me even more lost and confused because we assume that others have the answers to all our questions which sadly is not the case in my experience. The path i found that has worked for me is to understand what i am feeling and what my thoughts are highlighting for me to do. The problems start to arise when we forsake ourselves thinking that others are more experienced and have all the answers. The real danger that comes up time and time again is we then begin to resent our friends and the people we reach out to because we assume that they will do for us what we do for them and that will never be the case. In my experience if i got back back what i have giving out i would be rich beyond my wildest dreams not with material wealth mind you but something much more valuable love, care, compassion and an abundance of knowing that i am looked after. The point to understand is that our friends can only offer opinions and advice based upon there level of awareness and understanding so if there understanding is limited they offer an opinion which sadly offends or upsets us which is not there intention. If we all learned to understand what our mind, body, spirit and soul is telling us by being quiet and really listen to what is it trying to tell us we can not only transform our own mindsets and moods but create a reality all around us which will not create more confusion. We have two ears and one mouth for a reason but sadly we don't listen to understand we listen to respond which is a sin in my mind because people are not really looking for solutions but a sympathetic ear and just to know that someone will listen to them without prejudice and judgement which is rife in our society sadly. Now to counteract the need for others and the ultimately disappointment of others based on assumptions we need to be quiet within our own self and just listen to the insights which can manifest through thoughts, ideas, dreams. The solution i find always lies with the problem itself. The problem is not the problem itself but your relationship to the problem is the key. If you realise that when you are hit with a problem you are being forced into changing how you develop and move beyond the issue because your skills have come to an end and you are required to change a part of yourself in which to enable you to overcome the problem. So in essence what the problem is highlighting is a need to transform your way of dealing and understanding the problem so as to overcome it. When you are face with a problem with a friend your thoughts and feelings will ring alarm bells within you indicating that you need to deal with this problem pronto and not sweep it under the carpet. Once you find the root of the problem then you are faced with four choices, First. ignore, Second. Acceptance of the problem. Third. Confronting the problem in the attempt to move it forward (if it involves others and Fourth. Letting go and moving on. I know the fourth is the most painful but the most pain people go through in life is self inflicted because we blindly believe people will change but that's never going to happen people will only change if they want to not because they are forced. And the last statement is sadly for me a pet peeve and it's the insistence of people saying something or someone has the 'potential' to be. Get rid of that word and idea straight away because it will prolong your pain and suffering. only ever accept the reality of what's in front of you all all times never dream about what it can become because that's fantasy and live is not fantasy it's reality. Reality is what we must confront daily.
Until next time. Keep pondering all of life's mysteries.
Stevie.
Until next time. Keep pondering all of life's mysteries.
Stevie.