I was luck enough to be invite to a friends wedding in the picturesque town called North Berwick. North Berwick is located 25 miles east of Edinburgh. Now at this wedding i was talking to a group of friends enjoying a cigar with a glass of Jack Daniels and we were talking about the new and latest smart phones available on the market at that time. Were i said you need to be careful with all these gadgets as i've noticed through my work that there's a sharp rise in people becoming addicted to these items not specifically mobiles (cells phones outside the UK) but the rise in addiction to social medium to be precise. And the looks and comments i received were as if i had just landed from outer space with five heads. They couldn't get there heads around it.
Now look at your life. What do you have easy access to. A mobile, laptop and tablet. Now i have a mobile and a laptop and i must admit they are very handy things to have for many different reasons but my issue isn't that it's what we do with them daily and how it distorts our way of thinking and ultimately our decision making process which is very alarming.
I've seen cases were bosses have looked at a perspective employee candidate and predetermined whether that candidate deserved s job with there company. Seriously. What the hell is going on? You mean you dress in a straw holding a cocktail so we are not going to employ you? Of course that's an extreme example but if you ask yourself when you meet a guy or girl you really like the look off and you find out there name what's the first thing you'd do? Yeah. Look online at there social media and gauge an idea of them which builds up a very distorted picture of them in your mind because seeing a picture or a post only gives you a glimpse into something at that split second in time not there character as a whole.
I think the funniest yet most terrifying event i've read was partners fighting at the school gates over posts made on social media in front of there kids. What an example to set to these children. I can picture the scene now. How dare you send me a request for candy crush you now i don't like playing that game and i've told you to stop sending me that. Cue massive slagging match and someone getting smacked in the face. It's crazy really. Of course not everyone is as severe as this because these things have brought alot of goodness into the world as well to name a few the internet, youtube, skype and other programs but my reason for this post is how much does your attitude and perception change based upon the glimpses you see on social media.
How long do you think you could last without a phone, laptop and mobile? Exactly not long because as a society we are becoming more and more addicted to these items and it's now being more and more provable by medical and behavioural science that's having a massive impact on our brains functions in all ways which is alarming. If you know the facts as we do with drinking, smoking, drugs and food and had the choice to make up your own mind would you let yourself and your children on them. Did you know that Steve Jobs didn't allow his own children access to these items. You've to ask yourself why? One of today's modern innovators banned his own children what did he know that we don't. The answer will be revealed in due course maybe the next decade for example with more studies we as a society will become more aware of the damage these things do to our cognitive behaviour.
My friend told me that she was on a weeks holiday from work and she played the computer game Guitar Hero non stop practical for that week to such an extent that when she fell asleep all she could see was the neck of a guitar and multiple coloured buttons coming towards her akin to her playing the game and she was asleep. Now computer games have age limits on them for good reasons as i've read an article that many young pre pubescent children can't differentiate between the game and real live and could be a link between social media and ADHD. I will stress i'm not a medical expert in any way shape or form so you'd better ask people who research it because i believe there's a link.
The other classic tactic used by people are the spurned. How many of you out there have broken up with something and took it really badly only to gradually come down from the love buzz to have withdrawal symptoms and then gone looking for said person on social media for example Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and Whatsapp (others are available) How does this help? It doesn't it actuals creates junkies. Are you a junkie not in a conventional sense no you are not.
Now for the science. Love in it's basic form is energy which boils down to chemicals with the brain telling other parts of the brain via neurotransmitters that something feels good or bad. Now these emotions are addictive and we all have them in abundance. When we are in love we secrete these chemicals and we are needing them to feel good. When love is withdrawn we crave the buzz the secretion created and we automatically believe the reasons they were there in the first place was the previous partner so what we then do is crave like a junkie the buzz and here's were social media comes in very handy. It give us a direct link and very innocent glimpse into the person you miss in essence feeding your habit of good chemicals in your brain. This also works the opposite way when you really don't like someone the response is similar but in reverse and everything they do annoys you.
Now how many of you have friends who live out there whole lives on these platforms? And how many of you want to say hey, get a grip and stop annoying me with your constant crap? All of us. Now anyone can proclaim anything on these platforms but what you are actually doing is admiring a digital representation of this person and that's sad. What happened to people actually sitting down having a brew and chatting and getting to know someone face to face without prejudgement based upon social media? And yes i actually miss the good old days when i was ignored and bullied face to face at least that showed some class and respect to me and not hiding behind someone compute screen.
Joking of course.
All i'm saying is don't be a slave to technology, use it as a tool to enhance your life not be your life because for me personally when i log onto these sites i'm totally overawed and overpowered by all the information leaping out at me in waves but something as a sensitive i have to deal with that's why i go through phases of being on them and then not at all.
Thanks for reading. It means a lot to me and from the bottom of my heart i love that you take your time to listen to me speak about how my mind works.
Now look at your life. What do you have easy access to. A mobile, laptop and tablet. Now i have a mobile and a laptop and i must admit they are very handy things to have for many different reasons but my issue isn't that it's what we do with them daily and how it distorts our way of thinking and ultimately our decision making process which is very alarming.
I've seen cases were bosses have looked at a perspective employee candidate and predetermined whether that candidate deserved s job with there company. Seriously. What the hell is going on? You mean you dress in a straw holding a cocktail so we are not going to employ you? Of course that's an extreme example but if you ask yourself when you meet a guy or girl you really like the look off and you find out there name what's the first thing you'd do? Yeah. Look online at there social media and gauge an idea of them which builds up a very distorted picture of them in your mind because seeing a picture or a post only gives you a glimpse into something at that split second in time not there character as a whole.
I think the funniest yet most terrifying event i've read was partners fighting at the school gates over posts made on social media in front of there kids. What an example to set to these children. I can picture the scene now. How dare you send me a request for candy crush you now i don't like playing that game and i've told you to stop sending me that. Cue massive slagging match and someone getting smacked in the face. It's crazy really. Of course not everyone is as severe as this because these things have brought alot of goodness into the world as well to name a few the internet, youtube, skype and other programs but my reason for this post is how much does your attitude and perception change based upon the glimpses you see on social media.
How long do you think you could last without a phone, laptop and mobile? Exactly not long because as a society we are becoming more and more addicted to these items and it's now being more and more provable by medical and behavioural science that's having a massive impact on our brains functions in all ways which is alarming. If you know the facts as we do with drinking, smoking, drugs and food and had the choice to make up your own mind would you let yourself and your children on them. Did you know that Steve Jobs didn't allow his own children access to these items. You've to ask yourself why? One of today's modern innovators banned his own children what did he know that we don't. The answer will be revealed in due course maybe the next decade for example with more studies we as a society will become more aware of the damage these things do to our cognitive behaviour.
My friend told me that she was on a weeks holiday from work and she played the computer game Guitar Hero non stop practical for that week to such an extent that when she fell asleep all she could see was the neck of a guitar and multiple coloured buttons coming towards her akin to her playing the game and she was asleep. Now computer games have age limits on them for good reasons as i've read an article that many young pre pubescent children can't differentiate between the game and real live and could be a link between social media and ADHD. I will stress i'm not a medical expert in any way shape or form so you'd better ask people who research it because i believe there's a link.
The other classic tactic used by people are the spurned. How many of you out there have broken up with something and took it really badly only to gradually come down from the love buzz to have withdrawal symptoms and then gone looking for said person on social media for example Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and Whatsapp (others are available) How does this help? It doesn't it actuals creates junkies. Are you a junkie not in a conventional sense no you are not.
Now for the science. Love in it's basic form is energy which boils down to chemicals with the brain telling other parts of the brain via neurotransmitters that something feels good or bad. Now these emotions are addictive and we all have them in abundance. When we are in love we secrete these chemicals and we are needing them to feel good. When love is withdrawn we crave the buzz the secretion created and we automatically believe the reasons they were there in the first place was the previous partner so what we then do is crave like a junkie the buzz and here's were social media comes in very handy. It give us a direct link and very innocent glimpse into the person you miss in essence feeding your habit of good chemicals in your brain. This also works the opposite way when you really don't like someone the response is similar but in reverse and everything they do annoys you.
Now how many of you have friends who live out there whole lives on these platforms? And how many of you want to say hey, get a grip and stop annoying me with your constant crap? All of us. Now anyone can proclaim anything on these platforms but what you are actually doing is admiring a digital representation of this person and that's sad. What happened to people actually sitting down having a brew and chatting and getting to know someone face to face without prejudgement based upon social media? And yes i actually miss the good old days when i was ignored and bullied face to face at least that showed some class and respect to me and not hiding behind someone compute screen.
Joking of course.
All i'm saying is don't be a slave to technology, use it as a tool to enhance your life not be your life because for me personally when i log onto these sites i'm totally overawed and overpowered by all the information leaping out at me in waves but something as a sensitive i have to deal with that's why i go through phases of being on them and then not at all.
Thanks for reading. It means a lot to me and from the bottom of my heart i love that you take your time to listen to me speak about how my mind works.