I'm a firm believer in humility and calmness of mind and action as it's allowed me time to process information about whom i deal with in daily life. I speak only to say what i believe will aid the other person in what ever they ask of me. I give 100% always as that's who i am. I give through choice and definitely give more then i receive but that's alright because my actions are pure what they give me in return is up to them and not a reflection of me. I remember talking to a girl once and she told me i have multiple guys chasing me and hitting on me and i said cool but what i really thought was low prices attract many customers but hey ho i observed the person's actions as the are a true barometer of there true nature.
If you look at all your friends you'll find out alot about them not by what they say but what there actions portray about them. Someone's character can always be measured by what they want and how patient they are in achieving those things. I want for nothing because i recognise that what i want will never satisfy me because when i get what i want i will want something else after and so on. I live with what i have and happily live life with knowing that i am truly happy with my efforts because they are honest and i've never cheated anyone out of anything yeah i will tell people what i see honestly and truthfully which doesn't win me any popular contests but i'll never cheat anyone ever.
The issue with being a career personality wise is we always get shafted by people of such moral standards that they don't actually recognise what they are doing because they have no concept about being fair it's all about them. The key to dealing with these people is realising you have a voice and you have the ability to say no no matter what. You have to show people who you truly are which is tough but honest and not a doormat. I am a firm believer that people will always treat you in a way that you allow. So have strict boundaries and don't bend from them. Now i am not saying get a tattoo on your forehead saying 'beat it' now of course that's extreme but mentally.
The majority of the pain we suffer emotionally and mentally comes from two simple equations which are. We want that person still in our lives and secondly we don't want conflict but the real dangerous of these two simple facts are we become tied in and indirectly cause ourselves more pain and suffering. I tell all my clients that it's alright to have an opinion that differs from others (my friends can vouch for that) but i feel that if we agree to compromise and the other person is not willing you get a situation were you begin to detest the other individual to such an extent that the love becomes blurred which in 60% of the cases means you feel trapped and unable to break the circle.
Breaking the circle which sadly we've all had to do at some point is painful because we have to systemically remove ourselves from the other person yet some how still loving them but how can you have two extreme emotions about the same person and expect it to be love and happiness? You can't now love and life is full of compromises and adaptabilities and that's fine just make sure that those are two ways and never you giving more then the other person.
The main defence we have is being able to observe how the other person makes us feel, once we know how they make us feel take it from there. If you look at your friend at you want to smash there face in for example i think it's time to walk away (a bit extreme i know) If it feels natural without any doubts. Bang. You've hit the jackpot with your emotions and go forward with clarity because you've found peace within the relationships but as we all know tests are everywhere and we need to remain calm at all times to be able to see the bigger picture.
These are just basic stepping stones to achieving your aim as with life in general there are ups and downs but never allow anyone to take advantage of you no matter how much you need them in your life as you are far better then that. You deserve the best even if you are been mistreated by anyone.
If you look at all your friends you'll find out alot about them not by what they say but what there actions portray about them. Someone's character can always be measured by what they want and how patient they are in achieving those things. I want for nothing because i recognise that what i want will never satisfy me because when i get what i want i will want something else after and so on. I live with what i have and happily live life with knowing that i am truly happy with my efforts because they are honest and i've never cheated anyone out of anything yeah i will tell people what i see honestly and truthfully which doesn't win me any popular contests but i'll never cheat anyone ever.
The issue with being a career personality wise is we always get shafted by people of such moral standards that they don't actually recognise what they are doing because they have no concept about being fair it's all about them. The key to dealing with these people is realising you have a voice and you have the ability to say no no matter what. You have to show people who you truly are which is tough but honest and not a doormat. I am a firm believer that people will always treat you in a way that you allow. So have strict boundaries and don't bend from them. Now i am not saying get a tattoo on your forehead saying 'beat it' now of course that's extreme but mentally.
The majority of the pain we suffer emotionally and mentally comes from two simple equations which are. We want that person still in our lives and secondly we don't want conflict but the real dangerous of these two simple facts are we become tied in and indirectly cause ourselves more pain and suffering. I tell all my clients that it's alright to have an opinion that differs from others (my friends can vouch for that) but i feel that if we agree to compromise and the other person is not willing you get a situation were you begin to detest the other individual to such an extent that the love becomes blurred which in 60% of the cases means you feel trapped and unable to break the circle.
Breaking the circle which sadly we've all had to do at some point is painful because we have to systemically remove ourselves from the other person yet some how still loving them but how can you have two extreme emotions about the same person and expect it to be love and happiness? You can't now love and life is full of compromises and adaptabilities and that's fine just make sure that those are two ways and never you giving more then the other person.
The main defence we have is being able to observe how the other person makes us feel, once we know how they make us feel take it from there. If you look at your friend at you want to smash there face in for example i think it's time to walk away (a bit extreme i know) If it feels natural without any doubts. Bang. You've hit the jackpot with your emotions and go forward with clarity because you've found peace within the relationships but as we all know tests are everywhere and we need to remain calm at all times to be able to see the bigger picture.
These are just basic stepping stones to achieving your aim as with life in general there are ups and downs but never allow anyone to take advantage of you no matter how much you need them in your life as you are far better then that. You deserve the best even if you are been mistreated by anyone.