I like all of you have at some point of our lives been the victim of a person who just doesn't care or even bother with your emotional well being but always insists that you service there needs no matter what. I have ex friends like you all who talk a good game and pretend to be your friend for as long as it's all about them they are happy yet when you lean on them they just don't care or are posted missing. I had a dear friend who sadly and very tragically died from adult sudden death syndrome and i was emotional broken as you can all imagine so as a result i like all of us reach out to a so called friend telling them my feelings and i was desperate for some human compassion. Sadly my ex friend showed her true colours. I got a two sentence reply and that was it yet the next day she was on the phone complaining about here friend doing something very trivial and her car not working. This for me was so vitally important to me because it revealed to me that this person only cares about themselves and there own needs.
That's just one example one of my old friends i am willing to bet that every one of you has at one time or another dealt with someone like this whether it's a friend, family member or lover. The key to understanding this process is very simple indeed but very hard to implement for obvious reasons. What is vital is to not try to understand the other person at all because that's just what will keep you locked into this viscous trap and you'll keep riding the same roller coaster. The key is in fact to monitor and study your own emotions and feelings only they are and will always be the best guide you'll ever require to guide you away from these toxic events. Now i'm not denying that we all have to deal with these types of people simply because once you deal with one you'll never forget the tell tale signs of what you are actually feeling.
Look at the dynamics of the relationship is it equal, is it mutual beneficial, do you gain, do you feel rewarded and connected? If not why do you allow this to continue? Psst, It's ok to have a voice and say what you feel and not feel bad about it. If you don't they will accept your silence as acceptance and will continue to do what they have always done and that's not acceptable to you at all, you're better than that please whatever you do don't settle for an individual simply because you're a scared of being alone. You're better being on your own then being with someone who makes you feel alone.
If you ignore them do they even bother trying to get in touch or contact you at all? This is a real issue for me because in my mind someone who truly values your input would make an effort to include you in there live no matter what. Never be a certainty for someone who sees you as an option.
This process sadly has to play out in real time and there is no way of forcing it but that's fine because it gives you the ability to be still in your thoughts, feelings and ideas which will always reveal the true nature of what your next step should be as we are all guided by energies which have no eyes but is never deceived these two energies are commonly name the heart and the gut. Get on board with these two wonderful and powerful guides because they'll never steer you wrong ever, the main problem is your head rules all of your body leading you down a path of misery. The brain has eyes but is always deceived no matter what because the eyes and the brain sees what it wants to see.
Having these people and influences around you only creates emotional disturbances within you and if left alone long enough that effect your etheral and auric bodies which sadly manifests itself as physical pain and for the people who say love is painful are talking crap pure and simple. Love is simple but complicated by the rubbish excuses your mind creates to keep you holding on to the feelings that no longer serve you.
That's just one example one of my old friends i am willing to bet that every one of you has at one time or another dealt with someone like this whether it's a friend, family member or lover. The key to understanding this process is very simple indeed but very hard to implement for obvious reasons. What is vital is to not try to understand the other person at all because that's just what will keep you locked into this viscous trap and you'll keep riding the same roller coaster. The key is in fact to monitor and study your own emotions and feelings only they are and will always be the best guide you'll ever require to guide you away from these toxic events. Now i'm not denying that we all have to deal with these types of people simply because once you deal with one you'll never forget the tell tale signs of what you are actually feeling.
Look at the dynamics of the relationship is it equal, is it mutual beneficial, do you gain, do you feel rewarded and connected? If not why do you allow this to continue? Psst, It's ok to have a voice and say what you feel and not feel bad about it. If you don't they will accept your silence as acceptance and will continue to do what they have always done and that's not acceptable to you at all, you're better than that please whatever you do don't settle for an individual simply because you're a scared of being alone. You're better being on your own then being with someone who makes you feel alone.
If you ignore them do they even bother trying to get in touch or contact you at all? This is a real issue for me because in my mind someone who truly values your input would make an effort to include you in there live no matter what. Never be a certainty for someone who sees you as an option.
This process sadly has to play out in real time and there is no way of forcing it but that's fine because it gives you the ability to be still in your thoughts, feelings and ideas which will always reveal the true nature of what your next step should be as we are all guided by energies which have no eyes but is never deceived these two energies are commonly name the heart and the gut. Get on board with these two wonderful and powerful guides because they'll never steer you wrong ever, the main problem is your head rules all of your body leading you down a path of misery. The brain has eyes but is always deceived no matter what because the eyes and the brain sees what it wants to see.
Having these people and influences around you only creates emotional disturbances within you and if left alone long enough that effect your etheral and auric bodies which sadly manifests itself as physical pain and for the people who say love is painful are talking crap pure and simple. Love is simple but complicated by the rubbish excuses your mind creates to keep you holding on to the feelings that no longer serve you.